Saturday, September 17, 2011

Friendships... society... thoughts...

"Loving friendships provide us with a space to experience the joy of community in a relationship where we learn to process all our issues, to cope with differences and conflict while staying connected." ~bell hooks 

Tired tonight as I went on two different limes - two different places - two different groups of people.

The first was a birthday party - celebrating the 2nd birthday of the daughter of one of my oldest friends. It was fun... and reminded me a bit of my own early childhood - my mom liked to organise and have birthday parties for us. The food and the cakes were excellent (it was a cupcake themed party - the cake was all cupcakes). The company was interesting - old schoolmates that I haven't seen in a while as well as family members of my friend. What wasn't so great? The fact that I was the only single, child-less female. Is it unacceptable to be single and childless?? I had people asking me why I was sticking.. and also mentioning the fact that 'something is missing'. Nothing is missing and I am not sticking. What will be, will be and I have not yet found any person that I wish to spend extended periods of time with or that I wish to procreate with. I'm a bit sad though that any children I may have in the future would not be able to have play-dates with the children of these friends. 

The second lime was a girls' lime -it  was initially supposed to be a lime for our entire undergrad class but persons were unresponsive so it morphed into a girls' lime. In this setting I am not strange. My friends in this group are my age, females who have been more inclined to study and get jobs than to getting their family started. It's somewhat interesting to see how alike and unalike these groups are.

It's interesting to look at the society and try to figure out just what is happening. How do different groups of people evolve? 

Had a good time at both events though. Learnt that little children like me - for some odd reason this makes me happy. Learnt that no matter how late I try to be - I'll always end up early...  not sure if that's a blessing or a curse. Learnt that people seem to think that the louder a place is, the more fun is being had. 

Ah well. I'm tired.. but it was a good evening.

Happy Saturday all :)

peace,
Ren

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