Tuesday, April 22, 2014

A post about not being able to post...

"Vision is not enough, it must be combined with venture. It is not enough to stare up the steps - we must step up the stairs." ~Václav Havel

Sometimes I sit to write a post and words flow from my fingers. Sometimes I go through a day with thoughts and bits of phrases floating through my head that I know will eventually end up here on the blog as some sort of post and in some sort of comprehensive fashion. Sometimes I begin writing and am interrupted so many times that it's hard to figure out how to weave the words together. Sometimes I just stare at a blank screen because there's so much that I want to write that I don't know where to start. Sometimes I stare at a blank screen with a mind that is completely blank and then some minutes later I find myself wondering what I'm supposed to be doing. 

Most times the words are within reach... but, sometimes they're not, and that's when it's hardest to post.   


Monday, April 21, 2014

A complaint...

"All you need is love, but a little chocolate now and then doesn't hurt." ~Charles M. Schulz

It's Easter Monday and I haven't had any sort of chocolate. Something is not quite right here. Yes, I did go looking for chocolate eggs very late this year (as in yesterday) and so perhaps all the Easter chocolate is sold out? Or something? I've had very excellent cheesecake, and ice cream with chocolate in it, but no specifically Easter chocolate. 

I feel a bit grumpy about this. 

Ah well. Happy Easter Monday!


Sunday, April 20, 2014

Reading, reading and more reading...

"Books are a uniquely portable magic." ~Stephen King

Long weekend here in Trinidad and I've spent most of it with my Kindle. Sometimes one just needs to get lost in a book... or three. That's the number for this weekend - three books. Read and done... though I may reread again and again as I tend to do. Two of them I've read to know what they're about - my younger cousin was gifted with a Kindle and in trying to find books for her I just added these two as they were on the Young Adult's Best Seller's list. One I read as I discovered it on my Kindle... I'm sure I put it there - I'm just not sure when. 

The first: Miss Peregrine's Home for Peculiar Children by Ransom Riggs. It's listed as fantasy and that's always been one of my favourite genres. There's a hero's journey, a search into the past and family, the discovery of secrets which aren't secrets and photographs which were collected by the author and apparently inspired the book. It's a really good read.

The second: The Fault in Our Stars by John Green. I cried through most of this book. I may need to reread perhaps a few years from now. It's about a teenager who has cancer and a who-knows-how-long life expectancy who meets and falls in love with a boy. I'm not going to write spoilers. The details in the novel are very well-written - the cancer patients, their parents and the world around them. It's a beautiful book but perhaps I need time and space before trying to reread.

The third: The Secret Keeper by Kate Morton. At first I wasn't sure why I was reading this, then I found that I couldn't put it down, then I was sad that it was over. I would recommend to anyone. Plot twists and mysteries abound. It's also about a daughter searching into her mother's past... Perhaps there's been a trend all along with these books. History and parents and understanding of a sort.  

I love reading... I feel that it helps to open us up to experiences we could never imagine and allows us to relate to and further explore situations we have already been through.

Go read something...


Saturday, April 19, 2014


"Yesterday is but today's memory, and tomorrow is today's dream." ~Kahlil Gibran

It's Easter weekend and although the dates are not the same as last year I keep thinking of how the weekend before my mom's passing was Easter weekend. There are special times of the year I believe. Days that are good for coming into and leaving this world. Days for growing and harvesting. Days that have their own energy depending on where the stars are in the sky and how the people are on this Earth. I'm sure there are other factors. 

Last year when my mom was definitely coming towards her end I had thought that Easter was a good time to move on. It's a time of new beginnings... I've always thought that death is not the end of us. Just a phase. Transition. It's a good transition period. 

Yesterday I did the egg white in the glass thing
What patterns do the egg white make?
My brother does not know of this tradition which I found somewhat strange... but then I have no memory of him doing it with us. Just mom and I in the early morning before the sun came up, setting up to see our future. We have different memories of our parents; different amounts of time spent with them and different ways of relating to them. I'm only just realising this though I've known intellectually that this was so. 

I am remembering my past and thinking of my future. It's a good time to do so. 


Friday, April 18, 2014

Good Friday / The Wedding pt 2

"How beautiful it is to do nothing, and then to rest afterwards." ~Spanish Proverb

It's been a very lazy day for me. I've rested and napped and overall did not do all that many productive things. Sometimes I think the best thing one can do is nothing. Or something that does not take much effort or is enjoyable or is unrelated to whatever you've been working on for some time. 

I did go with my aunt by her seamstress who will be sewing the slip and blouse and pleats of our saris for The Wedding. I'm fairly pleased that I won't have to think about clothes coming up to The Wedding because they would already be ready. It's interesting that now we've moved into a time where instead of wrapping our own saris and making our own blouses/slips we can pass that on to a seamstress who will do just as good a job... and who will sew the saris such that they are easy to put on and wrap. The seamstress seems to have her own specific ideas of how our saris should be and I'm fine letting her figure it out - I just want to be comfortable wearing it when I have to. 

It's been a good day... restful - which is definitely something I needed. 

Happy Good Friday world!


Thursday, April 17, 2014

So so sleepy...

"We are such stuff that dreams are made on; and our little life is rounded with a sleep." ~William Shakespeare

Once upon a time, not many years ago, I could fall asleep anywhere, any time of day and be fully functional always. Now it seems as though I need definite periods of sleep. Now I can't fall asleep the moment I close my eyes. Now I find myself short of rest.

Was awakened this morning by parent moving around - this is normal, I've always been somewhat of a light sleeper. What is not normal, or is becoming the new normal, is that I couldn't fall back asleep. Then parent wanted me to do stuff with him. Parent always wants me to be far more involved with his activities than I want to be... or that I have time for... or etc. I tell myself that one day parent will no longer be here and I will regret time not spent helping or being with him but... there must be balance. 

I need sleep. More of it. It might be nap time fairly soon. 

Get some rest world.


Wednesday, April 16, 2014

Be curious.

"The important thing is not to stop questioning. Curiosity has its own reason for existing. One cannot help but be in awe when he contemplates the mysteries of eternity, of life, of the marvellous structure of reality. It is enough if one tries merely to comprehend a little of this mystery every day. Never lose a holy curiosity." ~Albert Einstein 

Sometimes I share things I see on Facebook without first fact checking simply because I'm curious about it or interested in what it says or that it makes me think. I consider my Facebook timeline to be something of a bookmark/note-taker... when I see stuff others have shared that I want to check up on I share it to my timeline. I really need to stop doing this... or find a better way of saving such things.

Today I shared this: 

I didn't say anything about it which I realised I should have done after people started commenting on it. I had previously read about Ishtar and have my own thoughts about her. I'd also recently read American Gods by Neil Gaiman in which he makes mention of Easter and the forgotten goddess behind the holiday. I thought it interesting that this then showed up on my timeline and so I shared it. I think when people see something they should be curious about it... whether it's true or not or feels right for them. Be curious. Explore. Discover. There's so much we don't know or do know but have yet to realise. 

Tonight, I did some card readings... it's something I like doing around the full moon and today still falls in that full moon bracket. I shuffled and shuffled and drew this card from my deck of Goddess cards:
Now what?


Tuesday, April 15, 2014

Finding the photo

"At any moment you have a choice that either leads you closer to your spirit or further away from it." ~Thich Nhat Hanh

It's the fifteenth week of 2014 and I know this because today I've posted my fifteenth photo for my project 52. Some weeks I know just what I want to post and I work towards getting a photo of that. Some weeks I have no idea till I see something that I immediately think would be perfect for my project. I'm not sure that the project is working out as I'd hoped - where I steadily improve on different aspects of photo-taking but I'm enjoying taking photos... as I always do. 

This week's photo is of Sri Ganesh and was taken after tea with some friends. Ganesh is honoured as the remover of obstacles, the Lord of letters and learning and the Lord of new beginnings. I feel that perhaps I need to give some time to honouring those principles. I've been seeing so many elephant related items that I feel the universe has been trying to tell me something. Sometimes there are so many signs nudging us along if we just take the moment to see them.

Is there anything you need to take notice of?


Monday, April 14, 2014

Sequencing the moon

"When I admire the wonders of a sunset or the beauty of the moon, my soul expands in the worship of the creator." ~Mahatma Gandhi

There's a full moon in the sky tonight and so I'm teaching chandra namaskars (moon salutations) in class this evening. I'm currently taking a few moments away from reading up on the postures and planning the sequence that I'll do to write this post. There's a full moon in the sky tonight and a lunar eclipse tomorrow. Take a moment to look at it, revel in the beauty of it. 

There's something about full moons that I've always loved. 


Sunday, April 13, 2014

Things to do in Trinidad.

"I never lose sight of the fact that just being is fun." ~Katherine Hepburn

It always ticks me off, just a little bit, when I hear people say that there's nothing to do in Trinidad (and Tobago). I've said before that I don't understand the 'boredom' any more and so in a similar fashion - I don't understand 'there's nothing to do'. There is always something to do. This weekend I had to remind myself that I can only do a certain number of things, that I can't be everywhere. 

I missed Comicfest yesterday, as well as the Mad Hatter's Tea Party event held on San Fernando Hill... I had a meeting with a guy then went to the opening of a new store, had lunch with my brother, went out to see Captain America with the cute guy. Today I attended the reopening of RCOTT's off road track...

...and then went to Runway Shift 2014 as the assistant to the cute guy (he was hired to do event coverage).

There's always something to do if you just open yourself up to experiences. There's lots to see and do here. Lots of festivals, lots of holidays, lots of people with different interests... and if you don't want to do anything... there's lots of places to just be. To relax and lime. To have fun in whatever way you please.


Saturday, April 12, 2014


"This is all I ever wanted - to help students and artists see myth as a reflection of the one sublime adventure of life, and then to breathe new life into it." ~Joseph Campbell 

Every so often I ask the cute guy to tell me a story, a true story about something that has happened to him or that he has done. We take turns, so sometimes I tell my own stories. It's a good way to find out about each other and the bits and pieces that make up who we are. Sometime in the future I will start asking him to make up stories; spin a tale, weave a yarn. 

I've always been interested in stories and perhaps this is why I'm so much of a bookworm. Books provide never-ending access to all manner of stories. Ideas, thoughts, facts and culture... all these are passed on through story. From parent to child, family to family and onward. 

Today I'm going to see Captain America with the cute guy and his family. I think movies are an interesting way to tell stories - it's different from sinking into a book but just as easy to have one's imagination captured by what unfolds on screen. Then too, some people find it easier to relate to images and sounds than to words. 

I'm thinking about how I can share my own story. This blog is part of it... writing the moments as they come... there is more to be done though and I've been thinking of how to bring it into being. Perhaps not now, perhaps in the future, perhaps as I've been doing - bits and pieces as I go along.

Tell me a story?


Friday, April 11, 2014

Laying the groundwork

"The best preparation for tomorrow is doing your best today.
~H. Jackson Brown Jr

I've been up since 4 a.m. - had a class with a private client at 5:15. I think it says a lot that I was perfectly happy to be up and about doing yoga at that hour. I taught another class later in the morning. I spoke with the principal of a primary school where I will be teaching classes for primary school students starting next month. I've looked at the curriculum for Physical Education for both primary and secondary students and wondered how I can fuse yoga and phys ed. I'm planning out blog posts in my head... not for this blog but for a future yoga blog that may not be that far off in the future. I'm thinking of retreats, workshops and who I can get to help me in some way. 

I've been busy... but it's been a happy day. There's been no moments of frustration or stress. Just a lightness in my being and the knowledge that for now I'm in a good space. I'm making plans so that this space can be continued. 

It's a lot of excitement.


Thursday, April 10, 2014

On having a (Cat) Child

"You can learn many things from children. How much patience you have, for instance." ~Franklin P. Adams

This morning I was in my room doing I can't remember what when I heard loud meows outside my window. Looking out, I saw my Cat sitting on a chair and apparently talking to me... 

He's a very vocal Cat. I am told that I have him very spoilt. I do not know what people are talking about. I don't over feed him - his vet says he is most healthy and definitely not over-weight. I play with him when I can. A lot of times he comes by me to sleep. He likes to cuddle and sit on me. He likes to talk to me. He comes to greet me when I get home. He makes noise outside my window at 5 a.m. because that's when he wants food. He sleeps away most of my waking day.

He is adorable and also a major responsibility. He makes me think of what it would be like to have my own child - a mini me... a tiny person who will grow into a big person who will be dependent on me for at least 18 years. I'm not sure I can manage that. I'm not sure I want to manage that. 

Time will tell I suppose... and in the meantime I shall live and love my Cat Child. 


Wednesday, April 9, 2014

Passing it on

"A woman with a voice is by definition a strong woman. But the search to find that voice can be remarkably difficult." ~Melinda Gates

There have been, and continues to be, a lot of strong women in my life. The one with the most impact on my life was my mother and I know that she has made an impact on the lives of others as well. I consider myself lucky that she was able to share herself with me and that her friends now do the same. I'm taking that into my own life and passing it on. 

I have my own groups of girl people. Women who are each amazing in their own right and who are growing from strength to strength each day. We are trying, individually and collectively, to be the best that we can be. It's a process... parts of everyday life that makes up a whole.

Today I had lunch with one of my cousins. She turned 16 this year... I do not know how she's gotten so old so quickly. I've been trying to remember what my thoughts and feelings were at that age. Trying to place myself in her shoes so that I can pass on what I have learnt. How do I let her know that she can be whoever she wants to be? That she will have as much support as she needs? That she is free to make her own choices whether for good or ill and someone will be there always? That she can do much more than she thinks she can.

I'm trying to lead by example. Letting myself be who I want to be. Trusting that all will be well and that there is support whether I need it or not. These are things I've learnt and am continuing to learn. I'm passing it on.


Tuesday, April 8, 2014

The Wedding pt 1 - Shopping for clothes

"The more I know you, the more I want to know you more." ~Roy Lessin

My cousin is getting married in July. It is going to be a weekend of festivities with both Hindu and Christian ceremonies. It is going to be huge. It is going to be fun. We (I've got lots of family - aunts, uncles, cousins and more) are all excited. 

July is not that far away and so I've decided to get a move on with shopping for clothing for The Wedding. The cute guy and I went to look at Indian wear... saris and shalwars and the like. There is a lot of stuff to look at and try on. There should be a lot of haggling... but I'm not great at haggling. The cute guy is a giant and finding stuff in his size is a bit of a challenge. I'm fairly short and finding stuff in my size is a bit of a challenge. It's interesting that we seem to have the same amount of difficulty in finding proper fitting clothing and footwear. 

We did find stuff though. I've bought myself a sari that I now have to carry to a seamstress to get sewn. The cute guy now has a kurta. We didn't go with the intention to buy anything but... since we found stuff that suited both of us we went ahead and bought them. He is fun to shop with and to be with. 

I have a date for The Wedding! We shall be beautifully dressed... at least for the Hindu ceremony... have yet to figure out the other outfit I'll wear.


Monday, April 7, 2014

Grump grump grump

"Where there is anger, there is always pain underneath." ~Eckhart Tolle

Sometimes I think that the males in my family exist solely to annoy me. Vex me. Make me most grumpy. I think males are strange creatures, and males who are closely related to me seem to be even more so. 

I do not like it. I do not like being vexed with family. I do not like being put in the middle. I do not like people not doing what they should be doing. I do not like having to point out what people should be doing. I do not like people expecting me to do stuff for them if they aren't willing to do the same. I do not like people getting annoyed if I point out that I do not like them expecting me to do stuff for them if they won't do the same. 

I am annoyed and grumpy. I am trying not to be. 



Sunday, April 6, 2014

Holding on

"Every great work, every big accomplishment, has been brought into manifestation through holding to the vision, and often just before the achievement, comes apparent failure and discouragement." ~Florence Scovel Shinn

I'm still working on figuring out what I should be doing. What there is for me to offer. What I should share. There are moments of strong belief and moments of doubt and through it all I am grateful for those who stand as my guide and my comfort. 

I'm holding on to bits and pieces of ideas that I'd like to bring to fruition. What are you holding on to?


Saturday, April 5, 2014

Yoga in the Park tomorrow.

"May I have the courage to show up fully, to be of service to what wants to emerge." ~Kathia Laszlo  

I'm teaching yoga in Palmiste Park tomorrow morning and so I've been spending this evening/night working out my flow. What breathing exercises should I do? What postures will I teach? What will I say exactly?

There is no exactly. I'm not yet very comfortable teaching but it is getting better. So much easier to do my own flow without having to think about how to word it and the sequence of postures. I've never thought it would be easy and I'm right about that but it is getting easier. I think perhaps all I need is more practice. 

Teaching is in its own way a great reward. There's something very fulfilling about getting thoughts and ideas across. Knowing that in some small way one may be helping people to deal with something going on in their lives. Introducing people to a better way to breathe and start their day. 

I've got yoga in Palmiste Park tomorrow morning. I'm looking forward to it as it is such a beautiful space to breathe and move in. Hopefully those who come to class will find their own joy in the experience. Hopefully I can guide them into a joyous experience. 


Friday, April 4, 2014

Note to self: Get some rest

"Take rest; a field that has rested gives a bountiful crop." ~Ovid

Tonight I am going to be in bed by 11 p.m. I find that I haven't been sleeping well lately... or haven't been able to convince myself that it's bedtime. My relationship with sleeping has always been a bit shaky. Sometimes (a lot of times) it seems that there is too much to do or too much happening for sleep to take place.

I need to go to bed earlier. This is difficult for me because I find that I do my best work at night. Whatever I'm working on tends to come out better at night. Makes more sense... flows freely as it should. I'm a fairly early riser though... staying up late + getting up early does not equal a sufficient amount of time spent sleeping. 

This is why I like naps. I find that our lives today are not made for having naps and that's a sad thing. I need to make time for naps. There are studies about the optimal amount of time for naps as well as the amount of hours of sleep one should be getting. I'm not getting nearly enough.

I should go to bed now. Are you getting enough rest?


Thursday, April 3, 2014

Feeling the feelings

"As our feelings are tapped, they become a resource for further self-understanding and creativity. We gently allow ourselves to awaken to new possibilities." ~ Natalie Rogers

Today makes a year since my mother's passing. I am not quite sure how a year has already gone by. I'm glad that I made the decision to post all through April last year because now I can reflect on how I was then compared to how I am now. This is part of the beauty of putting down words - that they will be there as a reminder of what was happening in our minds and hearts. 

Some months after my mom passed away I read Joan Didion's "A Year of Magical Thinking" - her memoir of the year that followed her husband's passing. I recommend it for anyone who has lost someone for it is so well written and captures, perhaps, all the feelings one may go through as we learn to live without the physical presence of our loved one. Some of what she wrote in that book: 
  • "Life changes in an instant. The ordinary instant."
  • "Grief turns out to be a place none of us know until we reach it. We anticipate (we know) that someone close to us could die, but we do not look beyond the few days or weeks that immediately follow such an imagined death."
  • "A single person is missing for you, and the whole world is empty."
Three quotes from a book filled with so many that resonated with what I was feeling. My mom's passing shook my world - made me take a look at my life in a way that I hadn't done before because there was always something else to do. I am given to introspection but I had not done so to the level that I could have until after my mom's funeral and the realisation that it was time for me to be doing more with my life. I've made some changes and am heading in a direction that I am happy to be heading for now. 

Today is the 9th day of the 40 day Meditation Retreat observed by members of the Blue Star.  In 2011, I encouraged my mom to post about her thoughts on the 40-days. On the 9th day of the 40-days in 2011 my mom wrote about 'freeing the soul from human limitations'. I take comfort in her words then as well as the words from today's message. This year the messages are based on Self-Mastery - today's message speaks of 'readiness'. How ready are we for the step we want to make or think we should make? How ready am I? What steps do I want to take?

I'm feeling all the feelings and letting them be part of my inner guide. How ready am I to move forward? What does moving forward mean for me? What does it mean for you?

Each day that passes I think of my mom... I know she'll always be with me and, in asking myself these questions and seeking to find the answers, I know that this is what she would have wanted for me. 

Always love to you, my mama.


Wednesday, April 2, 2014

Echoes of my past and future selves

"Each one of us has all the wisdom and knowledge we ever need right within us. It is available to us through our intuitive mind, which is our connection with universal intelligence." ~Shakti Gawain

Haven't been here in a while and so I thought I'd return and do another month of posting every day... I'm already starting a day late so this month shall be from the 2nd of April... till at least 30 days later. 

It's April again... my favourite month in the year - mostly because it's my birth month - it's always been a happy month for me. This year, as last year, it starts with a combination of happy/sad feelings. I've got stuff to work through... I feel I will always have stuff to work through. 

It's April and I'm thinking of where I was last April. My physical, mental and emotional state, my family and life on the whole. There have been many changes. Through it all, and especially within the past three months, I've found myself thinking of my younger self... and my future older self. 

Sometimes I'm teaching my yoga class and there will be a disorienting moment of being on the other end... of being a teacher instead of a student. Echoes of teenage experiences of yoga and tai chi classes. Moments of figuring out what I should be doing, what people want me to do, what I want to do. 

Sometimes I move through my day and feel what I could be... what I shall grow into. Future Me is one who has taken all she has known, learnt and experienced and used such to transform herself into an extraordinary person. I don't know how long it will take to get there but I do know that it is coming.  

I've always believed that all moments are connected. That we can reach back into our past and forward into our future. Send comfort to a past shaky moment, send positivity to a future moment. 

This month I shall record moments... or not. This month I take to reflect.