'Sparky thing' vs. 'Sparkly things'

"I suspect the secret of personal attraction is locked up in our unique imperfections, flaws and frailties." ~Hugh Mackay

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Title and inspiration for this post comes from Shoeaholic and Kramtt with whom I shared a most fun lunch hour filled with good food and ...interesting conversation. Thanks people :)

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You might not realise on looking at the title of this post that they were referring to chemistry... or sexual chemistry rather. I am here to let you know that when Kramtt says 'sparky thing' and Shoeaholic says 'sparkly things' ... they're both referring to the same thing. Apparently, Kramtt is given to adding on '-y thing' to words (such as spark in this instance) and Shoeaholic either didn't hear that initial comment properly or was somewhat distracted such that she thought what he said was 'sparkly thing'. In this instance I am inclined to agree with Kramtt, chemistry is usally referred to as that 'spark' of attraction between persons, 'sparkly things' brings to mind (to my mind anyway) images of vampire characters from the Twilight saga. Sorry Shoeaholic - perhaps you can blog about why 'sparkly things'?

Sexual chemistry, as defined by askmen.com (because I can't find a better definition/reference), is:

"a natural, mutual romantic attraction between two people that results from a mixture of physical attraction and natural, mutual personality-based rapport"

According to COSMOS (the science magazine.. not Cosmo/Cosmopolitan the women's magazine), sexual chemistry is:

"the product of millions of years of evolution all focussed on one idea: successfully passing your genes on to the next generation. And the whole dating scene is really just people assessing the reproductive potential of prospective mates." 

To me, chemistry is one aspect of a relationship. Part of our lunch discussion was whether sparks fly instantly or whether they can be developed over time... I'm thinking both. Sometimes when one meets someone one can be instantly attracted and that can form the basis of a relationship... sometimes one can be friends with someone a long time and then slowly realise aspects of the other that will create sparks. I think it's a personal thing.... dependent on the instincts and awareness of each individual.

Found these two blog posts on the subject:

1. Chemistry
2. Natural Chemistry: The Mystery of Love

Interesting viewpoints both... similarities abound. What's your take on chemistry? Instant attraction? Developed over time? Mysterious combination of both? Sparky thing? Sparkly things?

 

I'd love to know :)

 

peace,

Ren

I can live in twilight.

"Twilight - a time of pause when nature changes her guard. All living things would fade and die from too much light or too much dark, if twilight were not." ~Howard Thurman

And I'm talking about that time of day when the sun is below the horizon not the vampire-werewolf world of Stephanie Meyer...

It's not only that I most like that time of day... but that it really is the most me-friendly. I like the sunlight yes... and I live in the Caribbean... Sun is a big part of daily life. It's warmth and golden and a lot of fabulous things... but... I've got somewhat light-sensitive eyes. The glare that exists for most of a sun-filled day is pretty painful... Transitions just don't cut it. I need to find me a pair of really really dark sunglasses.

Of course the sun's not the only source of bright light around. I remember when I was little that my dentist had special sunglasses (pink-rimmed if I remember correctly) just for me (ok.. maybe not just for me - but I always used them) cuz the light that they shine at you would bring tears to my eyes far quicker than the actual dentistry proceedings...

 

Over the years I think it's gotten better... it just tends to be more of an issue when I'm not feeling well or am stressed... My eyes tend to be an indicator of how I'm feeling... whether I'm having an allergic reaction to anything (bug-eyes - I get them then) or whether I'm just super-tired... It's a reminder to pay attention to my physical body... what's going on... why am I letting it get so bad... what should I be doing.

I'm grateful for my eyes... and the ability to see, read, experience life through the visual sense. If you try... for one day or a half-day to do without... you'll see just how precious it is.

Be aware of your body, reader... and be grateful.

peace,

Rtr