Friday, July 15, 2011

'Sparky thing' vs. 'Sparkly things'

"I suspect the secret of personal attraction is locked up in our unique imperfections, flaws and frailties." ~Hugh Mackay

Title and inspiration for this post comes from Shoeaholic and Kramtt with whom I shared a most fun lunch hour filled with good food and ...interesting conversation. Thanks people :)

You might not realise on looking at the title of this post that they were referring to chemistry... or sexual chemistry rather. I am here to let you know that when Kramtt says 'sparky thing' and Shoeaholic says 'sparkly things' ... they're both referring to the same thing. Apparently, Kramtt is given to adding on '-y thing' to words (such as spark in this instance) and Shoeaholic either didn't hear that initial comment properly or was somewhat distracted such that she thought what he said was 'sparkly thing'. In this instance I am inclined to agree with Kramtt, chemistry is usally referred to as that 'spark' of attraction between persons, 'sparkly things' brings to mind (to my mind anyway) images of vampire characters from the Twilight saga. Sorry Shoeaholic - perhaps you can blog about why 'sparkly things'?

Sexual chemistry, as defined by (because I can't find a better definition/reference), is:
"a natural, mutual romantic attraction between two people that results from a mixture of physical attraction and natural, mutual personality-based rapport"
According to COSMOS (the science magazine.. not Cosmo/Cosmopolitan the women's magazine), sexual chemistry is:
"the product of millions of years of evolution all focussed on one idea: successfully passing your genes on to the next generation. And the whole dating scene is really just people assessing the reproductive potential of prospective mates.

To me, chemistry is one aspect of a relationship. Part of our lunch discussion was whether sparks fly instantly or whether they can be developed over time... I'm thinking both. Sometimes when one meets someone one can be instantly attracted and that can form the basis of a relationship... sometimes one can be friends with someone a long time and then slowly realise aspects of the other that will create sparks. I think it's a personal thing.... dependent on the instincts and awareness of each individual.

Found these two blog posts on the subject:
Interesting viewpoints both... similarities abound. What's your take on chemistry? Instant attraction? Developed over time? Mysterious combination of both? Sparky thing? Sparkly things?
I'd love to know :)


Unknown said...

Heh that's a tough intangible one. I think it's something very dynamic, beautiful - all part of human relationships. If two people's vibrations match up it's said to be good chemistry. I think.
My current relationship - I have no idea how we get along. lol. It's odd but cool chemistry. I cannot explain it at all. Hahaha. Heck I cannot explain it in NORMAL relationships with other people! It is what is is. I eh bussing my head to analyse it more.

Anonymous said...

I think I am pitta dosha..

what are you?

Unknown said...

Some years back I was Kapha-Vata but in recent years tests have come up as Kapha-Pitta so..